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Ok I'm a teen and I have many cousins. Theres this 1 toddler girl I really dislike because she is spoiled, bratty, rude, and etc. I also hate her mom, she is this lazy lady my uncle married. This toddler cousin always causes troubles at parties, such as stealing other kids presents, hurting others for not reason, and whining in front of everyone... The other toddler cousins gank her or isolate themselves from her all the time. She has caused me many troubles before too...
So one day I decided to be a good big bro to my cousin. She took advantage of it and called me her "prince". That is so sick, I ignored her after that. Am I wrong and why?
Thanks.
If toddlers are suppose to be like that then why are my other little cousins polite and smart?
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That's sad for many reasons.
A toddler mirrors what they see in their adult role models, your uncle and his wife.
I'd avoid labeling her as being bratty, rude and whiny.
Toddlers are this way, they are self-centered they can't reason to see another person's point of view, cognitively they don't have that ability yet.
Toddlers start to feel powerful about their bodies because they can now walk and grab and have a full sense of their body's control in what they do. So, they might seem bossy, grabby, and extremely independent. They don't need an adult to make things happen for them, they can do it - to some extent.
Also, they don't have an extended vocabulary like you and I do, so find out what "Prince," means to her...it might mean; friend, buddy, playmate, brother...all the Disney movies have the princes rescuing the princesses, maybe she sees you as her hero...kind of endearing if you think about it that way.
Toddlers are called "ego-centric," because they can only think about how they feel. If they want a toy and you say, "NO." They won't understand, they feel and think, "But I want to play with it..." They don't understand the why not, that another person is playing with it, that it's not theirs, that's it's not a toy for them to play with. All they understand is what they feel and that's it.
I wouldn't say you're wrong, but try to understand that this is normal behavior for a toddler.
The parents should be doing the disciplining according to what they feel they want to do...don't mess with that.
Edit:
About the other cousins isolating from her, this is good...she is indirectly learning social skills. As she grows up, she will learn that if she wants to play, she has to share and that's a step above being, "ego-centric," which means she has to yet reach that developmental stage, wait until she's about 3-4 years old, she'll be more pleasant and mellow then.
Edit:
That's a great question. Little kids have their own personalities as well, not everyone is alike and not everyone grows physically as well as developmentally at the same rate. Your other cousins have stronger adult role models as well. How often does your "trouble," cousin get to interact with other children? Is she an only child? Do your other cousins get together more often, or maybe have older brothers or sisters? There's a lot of factors that play into the difference in how she interacts with the people around her.
I hope that information helps you out.
That's sad for many reasons.
A toddler mirrors what they see in their adult role models, your uncle and his wife.
I'd avoid labeling her as being bratty, rude and whiny.
Toddlers are this way, they are self-centered they can't reason to see another person's point of view, cognitively they don't have that ability yet.
Toddlers start to feel powerful about their bodies because they can now walk and grab and have a full sense of their body's control in what they do. So, they might seem bossy, grabby, and extremely independent. They don't need an adult to make things happen for them, they can do it - to some extent.
Also, they don't have an extended vocabulary like you and I do, so find out what "Prince," means to her...it might mean; friend, buddy, playmate, brother...all the Disney movies have the princes rescuing the princesses, maybe she sees you as her hero...kind of endearing if you think about it that way.
Toddlers are called "ego-centric," because they can only think about how they feel. If they want a toy and you say, "NO." They won't understand, they feel and think, "But I want to play with it..." They don't understand the why not, that another person is playing with it, that it's not theirs, that's it's not a toy for them to play with. All they understand is what they feel and that's it.
I wouldn't say you're wrong, but try to understand that this is normal behavior for a toddler.
The parents should be doing the disciplining according to what they feel they want to do...don't mess with that.
Edit:
About the other cousins isolating from her, this is good...she is indirectly learning social skills. As she grows up, she will learn that if she wants to play, she has to share and that's a step above being, "ego-centric," which means she has to yet reach that developmental stage, wait until she's about 3-4 years old, she'll be more pleasant and mellow then.
Edit:
That's a great question. Little kids have their own personalities as well, not everyone is alike and not everyone grows physically as well as developmentally at the same rate. Your other cousins have stronger adult role models as well. How often does your "trouble," cousin get to interact with other children? Is she an only child? Do your other cousins get together more often, or maybe have older brothers or sisters? There's a lot of factors that play into the difference in how she interacts with the people around her.
I hope that information helps you out.
Developmental Pediatrician?
jmom123
My 2 yr old son is in an infant/toddler group because he has delayed speech. Since he has started he now says Momma, and Bye.
The group leader is sending up to see a Developmental Pediatrician and I need to know some questions to ask. Usually I am good at this, but when the time comes I usually freeze up. Has anyone taken their child to a developmental pediatrican before and what kinds of evaluation do they do?
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I had my son to a developmental pediatician when he was just over 2 years old. In my case, my son was suspected of being, and diagnosed as high level autistic.
There wasn't a lot of questions on our part, other than clarification of what the doctor was saying.
The appointment was about 2 1/2 hours long. The whole time my son played in the toy room, with us and occasionally with the doctor and at the same time, he drilled us with questions. There are standardized tests for autism (CARS being one). At the end, he ran the questionairre through a computer (one of those ones where you color in the bubbles) and had those results and spent 20 minutes discussing his initial opinions and the results (the official diagnosis took a few weeks for him to process). At the end, due to the results it was kind of a blur for us. We asked a lot about prognosis, but there isn't much of that - it is a wait and see for now.
Most of it for you will be answering question after question (does he do this, when did he do this, etc), and general observation of your son.
Please don't get scared of the Austim thing... that is my sons diagnosis, not yours.
I had my son to a developmental pediatician when he was just over 2 years old. In my case, my son was suspected of being, and diagnosed as high level autistic.
There wasn't a lot of questions on our part, other than clarification of what the doctor was saying.
The appointment was about 2 1/2 hours long. The whole time my son played in the toy room, with us and occasionally with the doctor and at the same time, he drilled us with questions. There are standardized tests for autism (CARS being one). At the end, he ran the questionairre through a computer (one of those ones where you color in the bubbles) and had those results and spent 20 minutes discussing his initial opinions and the results (the official diagnosis took a few weeks for him to process). At the end, due to the results it was kind of a blur for us. We asked a lot about prognosis, but there isn't much of that - it is a wait and see for now.
Most of it for you will be answering question after question (does he do this, when did he do this, etc), and general observation of your son.
Please don't get scared of the Austim thing... that is my sons diagnosis, not yours.
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