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Brandi
My 7 yr old son is always getting notes sent home that he talks too much fools around too much and doesn't listen. I've tried taking away TV for the night or the computer for a week, Video games are gone for good. He still doesn't stop talking or listen when he's told to do something or stop doing something. He's broke and crushed all his crayons, he's doodled on his worksheets. He can do the work he just would rather talk and not do what he's told. He's not that bad at home but I do see him getting worse than he was. It's at the point where he comes home and goes straight to his room. Am I being too strict? I've tried to talk things out with him and he knows exactly what he did wrong and why it was wrong but when the "why did you do it" question is asked the answer is always "I don't know". It's getting to the point where I'm missing out on doing stuff with my only son because he's always punished. What should I do?
Answer
As long as you're being consistent, you're not being too strict IMO.
It sounds a bit like he is either too smart for his classes and is bored, or is perhaps overly energetic.
Make sure gets excersize each day. Keep his diet is as free of sugar and caffiene as possible, and be sure he's getting enough sleep at night to wake easily in the morning. It's amazing how much can be solved by just burning off excess energy and getting enough sleep not to be cranky.
If he's too energetic, putting him in his room may make the problem worse. Perhaps some chores would be a better punishment, or an exercise he doesn't enjoy. Running laps or doing push-ups may make him resent those exercizes, but it may also help drive home a point about constructive ways to use his energy. At the very least, he'll be a stronger, healthier child.
Practicing good behavior can also help.
My daughter had trouble paying attention at that age. It wasn't that she didn't care to behave, she was just off in her own little world.
We would literally practice listening at home. I would read her a short story and have her tell it back to me straight away, so we could spot it immediately and she could learn to recognize when she was zoning out.
I also notice that she gets better grades in school when she's participating in an after school activitiest. She's not an overly athletic child, but she's been able to find non-competative sports she enjoys that let her get moving without making her rue her awkward feet.
My three year old son simply doesn't like to follow orders. He will literally argue that day is night. With him, we have to use many carrots and many sticks.
We have five beads strung on a ribbon for him. A bead goes up when he's listening well, and down when he doesn't. When all the beads are at the up, he gets a treat. When they're all down, he loses a toy or a priveledge for a while. Exceptionally good behavior will send all the beads up immediatley, and tantrums will lose hime all beads and get him sent straight to his room.
We create easy tasks for him we know he's likely to do, so we can give him a treat and reinforce that he's a good boy. That way, when it's something he doesn't want to do, he has the experience to know that cooperation can be worth the reward. Hopefully, we're also molding his self image to be that of a cooperative person and good citizen.
Try finding what your son can do that makes him proud and give him plenty of opportunity to do it. If he identifies himself in a way that's positive, he will live up to his positive self image. If he sees himself as the kid who always gets into trouble, he'll live up to that as well.
I know this was long winded. I hope you found some helpful tips in it.
Best of luck.
**PS
As for the ADD debate, unfortunatley, while some of the people here have had success stories, some of us were less fortunate.
There is no physical test for ADD, and the lists of questions used to determine if a child has ADD are too generalized and cover many symptoms that are common to other problems. Too often, other causes for the symptoms are overlooked or not even searched for.
The instances of misdiagnosis is high and the risks from the medication can be higher with failure to thrive being seen in most children who receive long term treatment and heart problems and psychotic episodes being commonly seen.
Too many parents have seen their children suffer through the effects of the drugs for extended pereiods while the doctors adjusted the prescriptions only to learn that their child was dyslexic, hard of hearing, had some emotional trauma that affected their behavior and ability to learn, or some other such problem.
To top it all off, studies have been done to show that children diagnosed with ADD show “no differences in adolescence between the drugged and the undrugged children in school marks, in number of grades failed, in amount of hyperactivity, or in antisocial behavior. The problems of organically hyperactive children seemed to linger on, whether or not they had been drugged.”
With the number of misdiagnosis so high, the risks from medication so substantial, and the benefits so debatable, it would be sheer folly not to first try common sense lifestyle adjustments to diet, excersize, sleep, and discipline.
If none of that works, always get a second opinion before allowing a child to take such controversial drugs.
As long as you're being consistent, you're not being too strict IMO.
It sounds a bit like he is either too smart for his classes and is bored, or is perhaps overly energetic.
Make sure gets excersize each day. Keep his diet is as free of sugar and caffiene as possible, and be sure he's getting enough sleep at night to wake easily in the morning. It's amazing how much can be solved by just burning off excess energy and getting enough sleep not to be cranky.
If he's too energetic, putting him in his room may make the problem worse. Perhaps some chores would be a better punishment, or an exercise he doesn't enjoy. Running laps or doing push-ups may make him resent those exercizes, but it may also help drive home a point about constructive ways to use his energy. At the very least, he'll be a stronger, healthier child.
Practicing good behavior can also help.
My daughter had trouble paying attention at that age. It wasn't that she didn't care to behave, she was just off in her own little world.
We would literally practice listening at home. I would read her a short story and have her tell it back to me straight away, so we could spot it immediately and she could learn to recognize when she was zoning out.
I also notice that she gets better grades in school when she's participating in an after school activitiest. She's not an overly athletic child, but she's been able to find non-competative sports she enjoys that let her get moving without making her rue her awkward feet.
My three year old son simply doesn't like to follow orders. He will literally argue that day is night. With him, we have to use many carrots and many sticks.
We have five beads strung on a ribbon for him. A bead goes up when he's listening well, and down when he doesn't. When all the beads are at the up, he gets a treat. When they're all down, he loses a toy or a priveledge for a while. Exceptionally good behavior will send all the beads up immediatley, and tantrums will lose hime all beads and get him sent straight to his room.
We create easy tasks for him we know he's likely to do, so we can give him a treat and reinforce that he's a good boy. That way, when it's something he doesn't want to do, he has the experience to know that cooperation can be worth the reward. Hopefully, we're also molding his self image to be that of a cooperative person and good citizen.
Try finding what your son can do that makes him proud and give him plenty of opportunity to do it. If he identifies himself in a way that's positive, he will live up to his positive self image. If he sees himself as the kid who always gets into trouble, he'll live up to that as well.
I know this was long winded. I hope you found some helpful tips in it.
Best of luck.
**PS
As for the ADD debate, unfortunatley, while some of the people here have had success stories, some of us were less fortunate.
There is no physical test for ADD, and the lists of questions used to determine if a child has ADD are too generalized and cover many symptoms that are common to other problems. Too often, other causes for the symptoms are overlooked or not even searched for.
The instances of misdiagnosis is high and the risks from the medication can be higher with failure to thrive being seen in most children who receive long term treatment and heart problems and psychotic episodes being commonly seen.
Too many parents have seen their children suffer through the effects of the drugs for extended pereiods while the doctors adjusted the prescriptions only to learn that their child was dyslexic, hard of hearing, had some emotional trauma that affected their behavior and ability to learn, or some other such problem.
To top it all off, studies have been done to show that children diagnosed with ADD show “no differences in adolescence between the drugged and the undrugged children in school marks, in number of grades failed, in amount of hyperactivity, or in antisocial behavior. The problems of organically hyperactive children seemed to linger on, whether or not they had been drugged.”
With the number of misdiagnosis so high, the risks from medication so substantial, and the benefits so debatable, it would be sheer folly not to first try common sense lifestyle adjustments to diet, excersize, sleep, and discipline.
If none of that works, always get a second opinion before allowing a child to take such controversial drugs.
How can I creatively decorate my kids rooms without painting?
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I have a 7 yr old boy and a 3 yr old girl. I need ideas on decorating their rooms without painting them. Thanks.
Answer
1. Cover wall space with your child's own original artwork.
2. For young children, use crepe paper on a roll (available at teacher's supply or craft shops) for finger, sponge, or other tactile painting. You can lay the paper flat, let your child paint to her/his heart's content, and then hang the finished painting from your child's wall. Another method is to hang blank sheets from ceiling to floor like wallpaper and let your child 'body paint' right onto the wall. This can be a fun activity for the whole family, as long as you don't mind getting a little messy yourself. Make handprints, footprints, and splatters. It's like coloring the walls, but without the parental wrath and permanent damage.
3. Older children may already have a collection of artwork from school art classes. Turn your child's room into a mini-museum by framing your child's drawings and paintings with paper, pegboard, or wooden frames, and hanging them throughout the room.
4. Finally, pre-teens will enjoy the time-honored tradition of the magazine collage. Use a removable, non-damaging adhesive (such as Sticky Tack) to arrange clipped pictures of movie stars, favorite musicians, and coveted shoes all over the walls. The best part of this decorating technique is that your child can add to it every day.
5. Liven up white walls.
6. If your child's heart is set on changing the color of the walls entirely, try using wallpaper - without actually pasting it up. Take a trip to the home goods store and pick out paper samples or remnants. Don't worry if the remnants aren't large enough to cover the whole wall - creating a collage of different patterns and colors is part of the fun.
7. To add texture, choose some fabric remnants from a crafts store to hang as tapestries. If your child sleeps in a bunk bed, fabrics can be hung from the sideboards to create a "tent". This can make the room feel bigger, and creates a great place for pretend!
8. Add 3-dimensional interest.
9. Hanging mobiles aren't just for babies. Fill some space in the room by fashioning a "chandelier" out of old toys, stuffed animals, or any lightweight objects. Older children might enjoy making mobiles that reflect their hobbies. Baseball cards, old ballet slippers, and sports ribbons are all good materials.
10. Hanging fabric from the walls - attached only at the top with some neat finishing nails - adds a splash of color to a room, and you can always take it down. Also try hanging picture frames (with nails through the fabric) on top of the fabric sheet to have a nice picture collage.
11. Add decorative knobs to the furniture. Thousands are available now, you'll find one that will relate to something important in your child's life - their favorite sport, an animal they love... You can even get them really involved by letting them paint their own knobs!
12. Self-stick, peelable, wallpaper borders, murals, and designs. They do not damage the walls, yet add a lot of color and character. Has your son out-grown ABC's and cartoon cars? Peel them off, wash the walls, stick on the Batman borders and stickers. They are available at many places that sell wallpaper as well as on-line. They will last for a year at least. Actually, these self-stick borders are nice for adding an easy splash of color to any room. Some of these products are 'cheap-looking' (like shelf paper), but many are indistinguishable from quality wallpaper.
13. Remember to hang art and other decorations low enough for the child to appreciate... and yes, touch. Too many nicely-decorated children's rooms have the pictures, shelves, etc. all at adult height. Who cares if it looks like it came out of a magazine? Whose room is it anyway? Put that ABC poster down at toddler level so she can appreciate it.
1. Cover wall space with your child's own original artwork.
2. For young children, use crepe paper on a roll (available at teacher's supply or craft shops) for finger, sponge, or other tactile painting. You can lay the paper flat, let your child paint to her/his heart's content, and then hang the finished painting from your child's wall. Another method is to hang blank sheets from ceiling to floor like wallpaper and let your child 'body paint' right onto the wall. This can be a fun activity for the whole family, as long as you don't mind getting a little messy yourself. Make handprints, footprints, and splatters. It's like coloring the walls, but without the parental wrath and permanent damage.
3. Older children may already have a collection of artwork from school art classes. Turn your child's room into a mini-museum by framing your child's drawings and paintings with paper, pegboard, or wooden frames, and hanging them throughout the room.
4. Finally, pre-teens will enjoy the time-honored tradition of the magazine collage. Use a removable, non-damaging adhesive (such as Sticky Tack) to arrange clipped pictures of movie stars, favorite musicians, and coveted shoes all over the walls. The best part of this decorating technique is that your child can add to it every day.
5. Liven up white walls.
6. If your child's heart is set on changing the color of the walls entirely, try using wallpaper - without actually pasting it up. Take a trip to the home goods store and pick out paper samples or remnants. Don't worry if the remnants aren't large enough to cover the whole wall - creating a collage of different patterns and colors is part of the fun.
7. To add texture, choose some fabric remnants from a crafts store to hang as tapestries. If your child sleeps in a bunk bed, fabrics can be hung from the sideboards to create a "tent". This can make the room feel bigger, and creates a great place for pretend!
8. Add 3-dimensional interest.
9. Hanging mobiles aren't just for babies. Fill some space in the room by fashioning a "chandelier" out of old toys, stuffed animals, or any lightweight objects. Older children might enjoy making mobiles that reflect their hobbies. Baseball cards, old ballet slippers, and sports ribbons are all good materials.
10. Hanging fabric from the walls - attached only at the top with some neat finishing nails - adds a splash of color to a room, and you can always take it down. Also try hanging picture frames (with nails through the fabric) on top of the fabric sheet to have a nice picture collage.
11. Add decorative knobs to the furniture. Thousands are available now, you'll find one that will relate to something important in your child's life - their favorite sport, an animal they love... You can even get them really involved by letting them paint their own knobs!
12. Self-stick, peelable, wallpaper borders, murals, and designs. They do not damage the walls, yet add a lot of color and character. Has your son out-grown ABC's and cartoon cars? Peel them off, wash the walls, stick on the Batman borders and stickers. They are available at many places that sell wallpaper as well as on-line. They will last for a year at least. Actually, these self-stick borders are nice for adding an easy splash of color to any room. Some of these products are 'cheap-looking' (like shelf paper), but many are indistinguishable from quality wallpaper.
13. Remember to hang art and other decorations low enough for the child to appreciate... and yes, touch. Too many nicely-decorated children's rooms have the pictures, shelves, etc. all at adult height. Who cares if it looks like it came out of a magazine? Whose room is it anyway? Put that ABC poster down at toddler level so she can appreciate it.
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