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We buy her toys that she will ask for and they are age appropriate, but she refuses to play with her own toys. She will play in my 7 yr old daughters room with her toys, but I can't seem to get her to play with her own. I have bought them both certain things, for example, little pet shop and barbies. If I tell her to go play with her own toys she will sit on the couch and pout for the rest of the day. She has a Leapster with her favorite cartoon tv shows as the games and she hardly touches it. Also, I will let her play the Wii or PS2 when she ask, but it will only hold her attention for 5-10 minutes. I have spent a lot of money on her toys and it angers me that she refuses to use them. What can I do? Could something medically or mentally be causing this reaction, or is this normal for her age?
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Errrr...its kinda obvious.
She wants what isn't hers.
If you take her toys away from her she will probably want to play with them because she isn't allowed too.
Or you could take them away and give them to her 7 year old sister and that would probably make her want them again.
You want to make sure she doesn't get things too easily...it sounds like you're giving her a lot just to keep her distracted.......always make your kids work for what they get otherwise you risk them growing feeling 'entitled' and not appreciating anything.
Simple stuff like 'bring me that and then you can play with this toy'.
'Put your things away and then you can play with this'
If she cries or doesn't want to do what you say - don't break down and let her play.
You're the boss and she should do what you want her to do.
"If I tell her to go play with her own toys she will sit on the couch and pout for the rest of the day."
She isn't doing what you're saying.....and this really isn't a habit you want her to learn/grow up with.
You could use double binds i.e Honey you can play with this toy now or after you've eaten, what do you want to do?
Honey you can go to bed now or in ten minutes, which one would you like?
Get what i mean? the only choice she has is to do what you want, you're just being smart about how you ask.
I'm not saying you have to be super controlling or manipulative....just understand how your communication with your child can effect its development long term.
(P.S You sound like a caring parent so please don't take any of this as anything bad about you)
Errrr...its kinda obvious.
She wants what isn't hers.
If you take her toys away from her she will probably want to play with them because she isn't allowed too.
Or you could take them away and give them to her 7 year old sister and that would probably make her want them again.
You want to make sure she doesn't get things too easily...it sounds like you're giving her a lot just to keep her distracted.......always make your kids work for what they get otherwise you risk them growing feeling 'entitled' and not appreciating anything.
Simple stuff like 'bring me that and then you can play with this toy'.
'Put your things away and then you can play with this'
If she cries or doesn't want to do what you say - don't break down and let her play.
You're the boss and she should do what you want her to do.
"If I tell her to go play with her own toys she will sit on the couch and pout for the rest of the day."
She isn't doing what you're saying.....and this really isn't a habit you want her to learn/grow up with.
You could use double binds i.e Honey you can play with this toy now or after you've eaten, what do you want to do?
Honey you can go to bed now or in ten minutes, which one would you like?
Get what i mean? the only choice she has is to do what you want, you're just being smart about how you ask.
I'm not saying you have to be super controlling or manipulative....just understand how your communication with your child can effect its development long term.
(P.S You sound like a caring parent so please don't take any of this as anything bad about you)
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