Step dad too strict? Or just what daughter needs?

Alright, Iâm going to try to make this as short as I possibly can but itâs going to be hard! Back in December of 2011 I began dating my boyfriend who is in the Army. I have a 3 year old daughter and I didnât bring him around her until about April (about 5 months) and even then, the time they spent together was limited and very gradual. He really became a big part of her life in July when I had invited him on our vacation to Florida which is when things got more serious. Since then things have been AMAZING but a bit on the rocky side, which is normal when you have a kid and have decided to start a life with a man that is not the bio father. J (the bf) came from a pretty strict military family and has been in the Army since 2006 so he is just strict by nature where as I was an only child (biologically), to a single mother (who married when I was 8) and I pretty much got whatever I wanted; I had rules of course but for the most part I had a pretty relaxed childhood. Clearly because of our different backgrounds we both parent differently. My daughter has definitely been the ruler of the house since birth. She had rules but for the most part, she got her way on most things and didnât want for anything. Well now that we have moved in with J things have definitely changed and I just need some advice and also, is he too strict with her? He demanded her get on a stricter bed time routine, which was needed and I agreed with, but other things I feel are just too much. I feel like the only thing he does with her is get on her constantly. He doesnât want her to bring a lot of toys out in the living room and would prefer her play in her room; he puts her in time out for biting her nails when he has told her not to even though nail biting is a habit that can be something that isnât done intentionally; and of course those are the only 2 examples I can think of but there is much more because I feel like itâs a constant argument. I have tried my hardest to never correct him in front of her because I know that could make her lose respect and what not but sometimes itâs hard because I donât like my baby girl getting yelled at constantly. J also has never really been around kids so he doesnât get that she is only 3, sometimes I feel like he acts as though sheâs 10 or something. He also believes she needs to be more independent even though sheâs 3. He makes her do pretty much everything herself that he feels she can do. Maybe Iâm just being silly and over reacting. I just donât want my daughter to become emotionally damaged especially since her bio dad doesnât even seem to want to see her and hasnât for a couple months now. There are times though where she seems to really like J. She has actually slipped a couple times and called him dad by accident (this turns all 3 of us red faced) and she loves her new home, we used to live with my parents and when we go visit them, she actually tells me she wants to go back home, so sheâs been adjusting well but I still feel like J could be causing her a little emotional pain.
Thanks for your answers so far! I do want to add that we have not at all gotten upset at her calling him dad. When I say red faced I just meant taken by surprise and a little embarrassed. We have determined that there is nothing wrong with her calling him dad, it's whatever she's comfortable with. We both agree that we're not going to force her to call him dad but if she wants to we would never tell her not to because that could make her feel like he doesn't love her like a daughter. As fas as her own father, he goes back and forth with her. Sometimes he sees her on a regular basis and then other times he'll just fall off the face of the Earth for a while.

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I know as a mother it is hard to let others discipline our little ones. Since it sounds like you have been on your own with her most of the time, sharing the discipline with someone else that is not her father can be challenging. He is trying to help her become a better young lady and one day a grown up. If you teach them when they are young it is very easy. My children were cleaning their room and leaning that toys get played with in the bedroom at that age, it saved my marriage and my feet lol (ever stepped on a toy in the middle of the night). I would say you should have a conversation with him to let him know how you are feeling. Make sure you are both showing her love and she will be great.

Whats A Brony??????????

Q. I heard people call people bronys on so many places (omegle.com, school, etc) and I really want to find out what it is so if you know please tell me. The person with the most and best answer wins!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Definition: A person who is outside of the targeted demographic who likes the show My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic.


Here is a little history.

1980: Started out as a toy line called My Pretty Pony. Was eventually bought by Hasbro.

1981: Generation 1 of My Little Pony. Some films and took place in a fantasy setting. There was also a film where the setting was in a modern city. A standard girl's show at the time.

1990s: Generation 2 didn't have a dedicated TV series or films but only had a toy line (although some consider the TV series near the end of G1's time to be part of G2)

2003: Generation 3 starts. The absolute epitome of what is "girly" in a stereotypical definition. Everything was girly, plot was absolutely horrible, and was definitely meant for girls who were of a very young age. Art direction wasn't very good either.

2009: Hasbro decided to rehash the Generation 3 characters and had some design changes. This was called Generatioin 3.5. Just like Generation 3, this was the epitome of pain and misery.

Late 2009: Hasbro decided to create a new version called newborn cuties. Animation was an abomination, characters were an abomination, nonexistent plot, and would lower your IQ. If Generation 3.5 was considered pain and misery, then I don't know what to call this one.

(Generation 3, 3.5, and newborn cuties are all considered to be the worst of all My Little Pony incarnations).


THEN...........

Hasbro and Discovery Kids eventually formed a joint venture television channel called THE HUB. Hasbro wanted to capitalize on the franchises they've owned (such as Strawberry Shortcake, Transformers, and My Little Pony).

When developing the fourth generation of My Little Pony, Hasbro confronted Lauren Faust and asked her what she could do with the franchise. Lauren Faust is known for working on The Powerpuff Girls and Foster's Home for Imaginary Friends.

They were able to get very respected people of the cartoon industry such as Daniel Ingram (music) and animators who have worked on Samurai Jack and a bunch of others. There are also very highly talented voice actors in the show such as Tara Strong and Tabitha St. Germaine. If anything, the 4th generation of My Little Pony has a very large production value.

On October 2010, Hasbro launched the pilot episodes of the 4th generation called "My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic." Many reviews praised the show saying that the show was actually very enjoyable to watch for the entire family. Of course, there were those such as the review by AMID that said seeing names such as Lauren Faust in the credits was a white flag of defeat. He says how disappointing it is to see such people in the credits because he says cartoons have become nothing more than marketing ploys to sell toys. This caught the attention of the cartoon board of 4chan. Most made image macros as a joke of MLP, but as some people watched a few episodes, some actually really liked it.

And so, from the depths of 4chan, Bronies (bro+pony) were born.

Here is some information regarding this fandom.

Equestria Daily, the main website for pony related news has over 240,000,000 views since its creation in January 2011.
Bronycon last summer had over 4000 attendees.
Everyday, there are meetups all around the world (listed in the nightly roundups of Equestria Daily).
Clinton was quizzed on MLP facts, Stephen Colbert had a shoutout to us, Conan O'Brien ponified himself and posted the picture on his twitter, Howard Stern talked about us (although in a bad way), a MLP shoutout is given in the Borderlands 2 ending credits, and Jetblue Airlines has even posted ponies on their twitter (and has created an original character with Bronies).
We have also been on Fox news, CBS, CNN, Yahoo news, local news outlets around the world, and in the official Top Gear Magazine!!!
There are over 300,000 images of MLP on DeviantArt alone.
John De Lancie, the voice actor of Discord and the actor for Q from Star Trek, is going to create an official documentary about bronies. They had a kickstarter campaign aiming for $60,000 but instead got $320,000 from the brony community.

Unlike other fandoms, Bronies are known for the content we produce such as music, art and fanfiction. FIMFICTION (pony fanfiction) has over 30,000 fanfiction. The longest pony fanfiction is over 608,000 words long (Harry Potter Deathly Hallows is 169,000 words long). Also, there is a fanfic called Past Sins that is going to be printed in physical hard cover copies (unfortunately the sign ups are over).

Also, if you want to have further information about the show and the community, I'd recommend you watch Saberspark's "Balld of the Brony" on youtube.

Hopefully you have a better understanding of Bronies and maybe you'll come to enjoy the show as well!

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What are some effective methods for potty training a child with autism (PDD) and speech delayed?

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I have a son who is 3 years old, and was diagnosed with Autism (PDD) on March 18, 2011. When my son was about 16-18 months I began to notice a drastic amount of regression. Once a happy-go-lucky kid, he quickly began to take on the personality of an adult who was suffering from an extreme amount of depression, or someone who was mourning death. When we'd go to family picnics he would kick and scream to leave. It was almost as if large crowds would completely overwhelmed and frightened him all at once. He became a complete introvert. Prior to the regression, although he wasn't quite formulating sentences, he expressed himself quite well verbally. He knew all of our close relatives by name, he could recite numbers (with assistance) to 10, he could recite his alphabets to the letter E, and he even recognized quite a few colors on sight! He loved any outdoors activities. He'd play basketball for hours on end, if it was possible. Since the regression, although he's been receiving both speech and special instruction therapy since July 2010, his vocabulary is still less than 5 words. His attention span is better, but not where it should be for a kid his age. In my opinion, his receptive skills are two times better than his verbal, although he require quite a bit of redirecting. I do feel as though he has the necessary skills it takes to be properly potty trained, but he doesn't seem to completely grasp the concept. When we take him to the potty, we see some results (he uses the potty), and we praise him immensely! It seems, because of the autism (only assuming), he doesn't quite understand what's going on. If we do it several times a day, it's always the same reaction from him. How can I begin to make him aware of what's going on? I'd like to help him be more aware of what's happening during potty time. I'd also like to know, how can I begin to help make progress on making me or his dad aware of him having to potty? He does make hand gestures, and he will sometimes pull and point you into the direction of things he desires. PLEASE HELP ME!!!

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I work with children with autism and have been a part of toileting programs for many children. The first step is exactly what your doing, just more of it! This may mean a trip to the bathroom every half hour, or hour depending on whats feasible for you (it may seem like you are living in the bathroom but the consistency is key) .Since you say his receptive listening skills are high I would also suggest a social story about using the toilet (if you have yet to use social stories, ask his SLP to help in creating it). This story can become an activity you do with him while he is using the toilet. Next you would want to immediately reinforce his behavior of urinating or having a BM on the toilet, maybe a piece of candy, or a special toy that he really enjoys (try to save this special treat for only bathroom time). Once you feel he is ready to progress from there, turn your focus to the "staying dry" part of toileting. For some children this is very difficult, I find with a lot of my students they have trouble fully emptying their bladders, which will lead to more accidents because even though they urinated on the toilet they did not fully empty their bladder and may still need to go. If you notice he goes more then once while sitting on toilet, or just little spurts of urine, this may be the case and it may take longer for him to become completely potty trained. But if this is not the case then you want to start to praise and reinforce him for "staying dry". Again an immediate reinforcer and tons of verbal praise. There are a lot of components to using the toilet and you want to break them down and tackle each component individually so he does not become overwhelmed and is successful. I would say for the expressive piece of him expressing to you that he needs to go to the bathroom, maybe try the sign language sign for bathroom, or a picture or PEC? When going in the bathroom reinforce this sign or PEC to him... ie "its time to go to the....wait for his attention.... then sign and say bathroom" you may ask him to also try signing it with your model. If your using a picture do the same but ask him to touch the picture, and when he does you receptively ID it and say "bathroom". If you do use the picture make sure to make A LOT of them! Put them in every room your son goes in, and make sure they are accessible to him, the goal is when he has to go he will bring you that picture. I hope this helps a bit! I would also suggest trying to get him some occupational therapy to help address some of the sensory issues he may be having. Sensory integration and strategies can help people with autism with some of the anxiety or over stimulation they may feel in large crowds, or noisy situations. This may help him to be able to enjoy those outdoor activities as much as he used to.

**oops forgot to mention the modeling of using the toilet, try (although maybe a bit awkward) to have him come along as you, your husband or siblings as you use the toilet. It really helps to hit the concept of using the toilet home, and that everyone does it.

Step dad too strict? Or just what daughter needs?

Kirsten

Alright, I’m going to try to make this as short as I possibly can but it’s going to be hard! Back in December of 2011 I began dating my boyfriend who is in the Army. I have a 3 year old daughter and I didn’t bring him around her until about April (about 5 months) and even then, the time they spent together was limited and very gradual. He really became a big part of her life in July when I had invited him on our vacation to Florida which is when things got more serious. Since then things have been AMAZING but a bit on the rocky side, which is normal when you have a kid and have decided to start a life with a man that is not the bio father. J (the bf) came from a pretty strict military family and has been in the Army since 2006 so he is just strict by nature where as I was an only child (biologically), to a single mother (who married when I was 8) and I pretty much got whatever I wanted; I had rules of course but for the most part I had a pretty relaxed childhood. Clearly because of our different backgrounds we both parent differently. My daughter has definitely been the ruler of the house since birth. She had rules but for the most part, she got her way on most things and didn’t want for anything. Well now that we have moved in with J things have definitely changed and I just need some advice and also, is he too strict with her? He demanded her get on a stricter bed time routine, which was needed and I agreed with, but other things I feel are just too much. I feel like the only thing he does with her is get on her constantly. He doesn’t want her to bring a lot of toys out in the living room and would prefer her play in her room; he puts her in time out for biting her nails when he has told her not to even though nail biting is a habit that can be something that isn’t done intentionally; and of course those are the only 2 examples I can think of but there is much more because I feel like it’s a constant argument. I have tried my hardest to never correct him in front of her because I know that could make her lose respect and what not but sometimes it’s hard because I don’t like my baby girl getting yelled at constantly. J also has never really been around kids so he doesn’t get that she is only 3, sometimes I feel like he acts as though she’s 10 or something. He also believes she needs to be more independent even though she’s 3. He makes her do pretty much everything herself that he feels she can do. Maybe I’m just being silly and over reacting. I just don’t want my daughter to become emotionally damaged especially since her bio dad doesn’t even seem to want to see her and hasn’t for a couple months now. There are times though where she seems to really like J. She has actually slipped a couple times and called him dad by accident (this turns all 3 of us red faced) and she loves her new home, we used to live with my parents and when we go visit them, she actually tells me she wants to go back home, so she’s been adjusting well but I still feel like J could be causing her a little emotional pain.
Thanks for your answers so far! I do want to add that we have not at all gotten upset at her calling him dad. When I say red faced I just meant taken by surprise and a little embarrassed. We have determined that there is nothing wrong with her calling him dad, it's whatever she's comfortable with. We both agree that we're not going to force her to call him dad but if she wants to we would never tell her not to because that could make her feel like he doesn't love her like a daughter. As fas as her own father, he goes back and forth with her. Sometimes he sees her on a regular basis and then other times he'll just fall off the face of the Earth for a while.

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I know as a mother it is hard to let others discipline our little ones. Since it sounds like you have been on your own with her most of the time, sharing the discipline with someone else that is not her father can be challenging. He is trying to help her become a better young lady and one day a grown up. If you teach them when they are young it is very easy. My children were cleaning their room and leaning that toys get played with in the bedroom at that age, it saved my marriage and my feet lol (ever stepped on a toy in the middle of the night). I would say you should have a conversation with him to let him know how you are feeling. Make sure you are both showing her love and she will be great.

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Will getting a dog help my children overcome their fear of dogs?

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Love my ba

I have two kids who are 2 and 4. They are deathly afraid of dogs, I mean absolutely terrified. If they see a dog DOWN THE ROAD that is even on a chain and it is barking they still freak out and run inside. The main problem is my 4 year old. He is so scared of dogs that it's almost ridiculous. My daughter who is 2 is also scared of dogs but I believe it's only because of her big brother being afraid of dogs. When he is not around to show fear, she is interested in dogs and even pets them, but doesn't want to be put down or I guess in a position where the dog could get her. The main problem is when they come at my kids, playful or not if they come running at my kids that's when they really get scared. Or bark loudly at my kids. If they are far away and playing or doing something funny like chasing a toy my son will laugh and laugh but if they get near that's when he gets scared. He has no reason to have this fear but has had it since before the age of 1. I am wondering if I get a dog, maybe one that is a little older past the puppy stage like 2 or 3 that is calm and not all jumpy, but still plays, and is very sweet and loving, if it will help my children over come their fear? At least to some degree? Has anyone has experience with this? Also if you could recommend and good bread for this? I am shelter currently has at a Puggle, and a beagle lab mix that I have been looking at pictures who are both 2-4 years old and cute! Thanks for any help

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No no no no. Your kids should feel safe in their own home. That means no dog until they are ready for it. Further, kids age 2 and 4 are NOT a good home for the dog either. The younger child especially is at the age where kids can be absolutely abusive to a dog (or any animal) without understanding the consequences. That's why THOUSANDS of toddlers are bitten every year....

Here is a website with some good ideas for you to try:
http://pets.webmd.com/dogs/features/helping-your-child-overcome-a-fear-of-dogs?page=2

EDIT:
In 2011, there were 43,989 dog bites reported for kids age 4 and under. And I'm betting at least that same number went unreported.... http://webappa.cdc.gov/sasweb/ncipc/nfirates2001.html

BTW, "cute" should be the LAST consideration. Wait until your youngest is 5 before getting something like a Lab or Golden Retriever, or a cross of those. That will give you lots of time to work on your children's phobias.

Do you know what you are getting your kids for Christmas this year (2011)?

Kawaii

If so, what? Please also include ages of your kids and gender. I'm planning out a Christmas gift idea list for my 3 year old boy and my 6 year old girl, and would like to see what every one else's kids are into. Thanks!

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well i have a 4 yr boy and a 5 yr girl and they want a puppy as there "big present"
we are thinking of that because we dont want to get them a wii or nintendo ds until they are older so they can take care of them!
they want matching pjs
my daughter wants a toy kitchen set, a selena gomez cd, some disney movies
my son wants a jeep those cars where he drives it, and a remote control car and airplane
good luck

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Name some kid movies I can show to ages 5-15?