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Do you expect them to be grateful for the chance to go to school, or just for the chance to go on special, fun outings, such as an amusement park? (Or neither?)
Do you to expect them to be grateful every time you make the effort to prepare them food (e.g., ordinary meals), or only for treats and special meals? (Or neither?)
If gratitude is something you expect from your children, how have you gone about cultivating it? Or do you think that feeling grateful for life's basics is unnatural or unimportant?
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Good question...it is one thing to teach a child to say "thank you" when they are given something they wanted or needed, it is another thing to expect there to be heartfelt emotion attached to the expression of gratitude. Saying "thank you" can become an automated response, and in most cases it does become an automated response even into adulthood. With children the attention seems to be focused 99% on the item or special occasion and the 1% focus is for a quick "thank you" followed by immediate immersion in the activity.
And to me that is fine, they are kids, I expect kids to be polite...I do not expect them to be perfect angels and lavish me endlessly with gratitude.
How do you teach a child to be truly grateful for something they have received? Is that something that can be taught? How do you teach a child to show more gratitude? If you could teach/train a child to show more gratitude, whose benefit is that for really, the child's or the parent's? Is it truly gratitude if a child has been taught to profusely say "thank you" over and over again right after being given a meal, trained to say "mmm your a good cook" during the meal followed by more thank you's after the meal?
It is not really heartfelt is it? Just an extension of the automated "thank you" response.
Like I said, I do not expect overt gratitude from my 3 year old son, I simply expect him to be polite by saying "please" and "thank you" and, depending on what he is receiving, I expect his gratitude will match his excitement and if HE decides an overzealous heartfelt wave of gratitude is called for, the hope is he will express such gratitude.
The only way to teach this is by example. Higher levels of gratitude from a child can only come spontaneously, it is not something that can be coached into a kid, if it is then the gratitude comes off as disingenuous, insincere. If a child is raised in a home where mom cooks the meals and puts dinner in front of dad and dad says nothing, just starts eating...chances are the children will hardly ever say "thanks for cooking mom" without being prodded.
My son is 3 years old. He was taught gratitude though observing example. New toys I buy for him that he thinks are just ok he always says thanks and gives me a little hug before playing with the toy. I never know what he will just like and what he will love. But when I buy him a toy he loves, he gets really excited and says "thanks dad, this is soooo cool, wow" and he gives me a big hug, then he will play with the toy for a few minutes and then does the unexpected...he comes up to me hugs me hard again and says "thanks dad, your the best" and dad's heart melts. :-)
Same with most anything we do for him, he is appreciative and grateful for things other people do for him...just like his Mom and Dad are.
EDIT : "Children do not have the life experience to be grateful."
My son is a child. 3 years old. He has had 3 years of life experience observing mom and dad expressing gratitude to each other and to him as well, he HAS learned what gratitude is and how to express it.
Good question...it is one thing to teach a child to say "thank you" when they are given something they wanted or needed, it is another thing to expect there to be heartfelt emotion attached to the expression of gratitude. Saying "thank you" can become an automated response, and in most cases it does become an automated response even into adulthood. With children the attention seems to be focused 99% on the item or special occasion and the 1% focus is for a quick "thank you" followed by immediate immersion in the activity.
And to me that is fine, they are kids, I expect kids to be polite...I do not expect them to be perfect angels and lavish me endlessly with gratitude.
How do you teach a child to be truly grateful for something they have received? Is that something that can be taught? How do you teach a child to show more gratitude? If you could teach/train a child to show more gratitude, whose benefit is that for really, the child's or the parent's? Is it truly gratitude if a child has been taught to profusely say "thank you" over and over again right after being given a meal, trained to say "mmm your a good cook" during the meal followed by more thank you's after the meal?
It is not really heartfelt is it? Just an extension of the automated "thank you" response.
Like I said, I do not expect overt gratitude from my 3 year old son, I simply expect him to be polite by saying "please" and "thank you" and, depending on what he is receiving, I expect his gratitude will match his excitement and if HE decides an overzealous heartfelt wave of gratitude is called for, the hope is he will express such gratitude.
The only way to teach this is by example. Higher levels of gratitude from a child can only come spontaneously, it is not something that can be coached into a kid, if it is then the gratitude comes off as disingenuous, insincere. If a child is raised in a home where mom cooks the meals and puts dinner in front of dad and dad says nothing, just starts eating...chances are the children will hardly ever say "thanks for cooking mom" without being prodded.
My son is 3 years old. He was taught gratitude though observing example. New toys I buy for him that he thinks are just ok he always says thanks and gives me a little hug before playing with the toy. I never know what he will just like and what he will love. But when I buy him a toy he loves, he gets really excited and says "thanks dad, this is soooo cool, wow" and he gives me a big hug, then he will play with the toy for a few minutes and then does the unexpected...he comes up to me hugs me hard again and says "thanks dad, your the best" and dad's heart melts. :-)
Same with most anything we do for him, he is appreciative and grateful for things other people do for him...just like his Mom and Dad are.
EDIT : "Children do not have the life experience to be grateful."
My son is a child. 3 years old. He has had 3 years of life experience observing mom and dad expressing gratitude to each other and to him as well, he HAS learned what gratitude is and how to express it.
Were Sailor Moon toys in McDonalds or Burger King?
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I know that Sailor Moon was a very popular TV show in the 90's and with it's recent comeback I was wondering if Sailor Moon toys were ever in the kids meals at fast food restaurants like McDonalds or Burger King?
If they were what were they?
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NO they were never in kids meals~~~have thousands of small toys in my collection.
NO they were never in kids meals~~~have thousands of small toys in my collection.
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