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im a baby-sitter and baby-sit a 20 month old boy. His mom works from home and is usually out of sight. At the beginning of each day I walk in and the baby is very happy to see me and is laughing and smiling. However when his mom goes into her office for work, he gets super emotional and cries when either the brother or I try to play with him. At first he acts really afraid of me, but after a quick drink of water and a few toys he brightens up and sits in my lap to play and watch TV. I am beginning to think that he doesn't remember me and each day I'm someone new. How do I get this to stop? Also, how do I get the seperation anxiety to stop? I pick him up and talk calm, and he usually is Ok untill he is let back down. i try distracting him but it only works for a minute or two. He obviously doesn't understand "Mommy is coming soon" or "Mommy is working." He loves the playroom upstairs and I try to keep him in there, but when i have to go downstairs I can't leave him alone (problems start cause the mom's office is downstairs). he sometimes doesn't stop when she comes out. I don't think hes running from me but i would love tips on how to distract him and make him see that if he behaves he can see mom. So long story short how can I make the seperation anxiety stop, the treating me like a stranger stop, and tell him that mommy will come out only if hes good?
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He's too young to teach him those things. Separation anxiety is a developmental phase, not something you teach. All you can do is try to make him comfortable, offer lots of cuddles & distract him as best you can. The way mom's operate in society has changed dramatically in recent history - offices, jobs away from home, etc - this was not true at all just 100 yrs ago. So although society has changed, the wiring of babies & small children has not. That isn't their fault & we can't try to teach them to "get with the times". All we can do is help them cope the best we can with a situation they aren't wired to like.
read this - it might help you understand a bit more: http://www.drmomma.org/2010/07/mother-toddler-separation.html
Just do the best you can. The older he gets, the more he will understand & the easier this will be for him & you. Do NOT dangle seeing his mom as a carrot he gets ID he "behaves". Being upset that he is separated from mom is not a "bad behavior" it is an emotional response.
He's too young to teach him those things. Separation anxiety is a developmental phase, not something you teach. All you can do is try to make him comfortable, offer lots of cuddles & distract him as best you can. The way mom's operate in society has changed dramatically in recent history - offices, jobs away from home, etc - this was not true at all just 100 yrs ago. So although society has changed, the wiring of babies & small children has not. That isn't their fault & we can't try to teach them to "get with the times". All we can do is help them cope the best we can with a situation they aren't wired to like.
read this - it might help you understand a bit more: http://www.drmomma.org/2010/07/mother-toddler-separation.html
Just do the best you can. The older he gets, the more he will understand & the easier this will be for him & you. Do NOT dangle seeing his mom as a carrot he gets ID he "behaves". Being upset that he is separated from mom is not a "bad behavior" it is an emotional response.
What did you do for your baby's first birthday?
Mama to 2
Boy or girl?
When?
Where did you have the party?
What was the theme?
Who was invited?
How did it go?
What did your child wear?
What did you buy your child?
I'm just curious, my daughter will be 1 in 10 days... I can't believe it.
Here are my answers:
Boy or girl?
-Girl
When?
-October 30th (3 days after her actual birthday).
Where did you have the party?
-It will be at our house
What was the theme?
-HALLOWEEN! Orange and black everything! Everyone comes in costumes.
Who was invited?
-We cut it down to strictly grandparents, aunts, uncles, first cosines and very close friends... that still equals 50-ish people!
How did it go?
-I don't know yet lol.
What did your child wear?
-She will wear her pumpkin Halloween costume!
What did you buy your child?
-I got her gift yesterday. I bought her a My Little Pony toy, a mini toddler interactive and light up kitchen (6-24 months), a baby purse with interactive lipstick and things like that, a shirt, sweater and jeans.
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Its crazy eh? Cady will be 1 in a week!
Boy or girl?
-girl
When?
-October 24th, 2010
Where did you have the party?
-it will be at my parents house (where we are living)
What was the theme?
-first birthday...everything is my first birthday and in pink
Who was invited?
-grandparents, aunts, uncles and our good friends who mostly all have kids close in age to Cady
How did it go?
-we'll see! good I hope!
What did your child wear?
-it depends on the weather...we hope for an outdoor party. I want to put her in her pink and black shirt dress with black leggings
What did you buy your child?
- we got her a wagon and a Fisher Price My First Dollhouse with an extra playset that goes with it
Its crazy eh? Cady will be 1 in a week!
Boy or girl?
-girl
When?
-October 24th, 2010
Where did you have the party?
-it will be at my parents house (where we are living)
What was the theme?
-first birthday...everything is my first birthday and in pink
Who was invited?
-grandparents, aunts, uncles and our good friends who mostly all have kids close in age to Cady
How did it go?
-we'll see! good I hope!
What did your child wear?
-it depends on the weather...we hope for an outdoor party. I want to put her in her pink and black shirt dress with black leggings
What did you buy your child?
- we got her a wagon and a Fisher Price My First Dollhouse with an extra playset that goes with it
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