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Every morning when I wake up and get my son out of his room I walk in and find all his clothes thrown on the floor from his dresser. I have been to stores looking for some kind of safety device to prevent him from opening them but have been unsuccessful. Is there a product out there made for this? I tried to see if the things we have for our cabinets that you have to push down on to open them would work but they don't fit right for dresser drawers.
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First make him put them back. Then if you can you might want to try putting some toys in the bottom dresser draw (this is what I did for my daughter), the 2nd from bottom has pants so if she throws them on the floor I don't really have to worry about them. She hasn't raided her drawers in a while, though now she likes to go thur mine. LOL it's really rather cute because sometimes she wants to wear my shirts but usually she picks out my cloths when we're going out or right after a shower.
First make him put them back. Then if you can you might want to try putting some toys in the bottom dresser draw (this is what I did for my daughter), the 2nd from bottom has pants so if she throws them on the floor I don't really have to worry about them. She hasn't raided her drawers in a while, though now she likes to go thur mine. LOL it's really rather cute because sometimes she wants to wear my shirts but usually she picks out my cloths when we're going out or right after a shower.
How do you help your toddler resolve social conflict?
Tali B
Hi all
I was just wondering, how do you you usually react when your toddler has a conflict on the playground? Let's say, he takes a sand tool from another baby and that baby cries? Or wise versa, someone else takes something from you toddler and your toddler is upset? Do you even let them settle it between themselves or do you actually step in? Do you just talk and explain or physically get involved?
In other words, how do you let your baby learn social skills without harming him and others?
My boy is 14 months old
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It depends on the actual sitations for me.
As far as the sand toys being taken away, I would only need to get involved if MY child took something from someone else. He's 4 now but when he was younger I would simply encourage him to find something new to play with. Now that he's older he understands that he can play with something else until the toy that was taken away is sat down again.
On the other hand... if he takes something from someone I make him give it back immediately and say he's sorry. I want my child to have manners and allowing him to take things away from someone else isnt a good start at teaching him how to play with others.
You cant control other people's children and what they do to your child, but you can enstill ideas into your child's mind at a very young age and sharing is something that is actually very easy for children to learn if it's something they do on a regular basis.
A toddler should understand that it's NOT ok to take something from someone, but having them understand what to do when someone takes something from them is a little more complicated.
You dont want to baby them each time and have your child scream and cry each time someone takes a shovel from them. If you respond to the fact that they're crying by putting something else in your hand they're going to continue to react the same way... Instead show them they have other optoins and let them get them on their own.
"Look, there's a blue shovel there". or "Look at the tractor you can play with instead!"
Eventually your child will respond naturally by looking for something new rather than the toy that was taken away. If a tantrum results in getting their toy back then they're going to naturally throw a tantrum every time to get it back... I dunno about you but I dont allow my children to obtain things that way even if it is something they are rightfully entitled to.
Let your child learn the skills on their own to an extent... you do your best to encourage them to act and react in a way that is acceptable for you.
PLEASE dont be the parent that thinks you're teaching your child social skills by ignoring or dismissing their not-so-good actions when they're playing with others.
Last week at McDonalds a child hit my 4 year old. It wasnt real hard so he wasnt hurt but it did upset him to an extent (confused him more than anything because he didnt understand why the kid hit him). Anyway... the kids mom walked over and told her son to say he was sorry, he said "no", then SHE apologized for her child, went back to sit down, and let her kid go play some more.
I would have personally told my child that hitting is NOT acceptable, made him say he was sorry, and I would have taken him home... end of story.
I think it's awful to see responses saying that parents will step in only if someone's hurting their child, but not if their child is doing something wrong to someone else.... /sigh
It depends on the actual sitations for me.
As far as the sand toys being taken away, I would only need to get involved if MY child took something from someone else. He's 4 now but when he was younger I would simply encourage him to find something new to play with. Now that he's older he understands that he can play with something else until the toy that was taken away is sat down again.
On the other hand... if he takes something from someone I make him give it back immediately and say he's sorry. I want my child to have manners and allowing him to take things away from someone else isnt a good start at teaching him how to play with others.
You cant control other people's children and what they do to your child, but you can enstill ideas into your child's mind at a very young age and sharing is something that is actually very easy for children to learn if it's something they do on a regular basis.
A toddler should understand that it's NOT ok to take something from someone, but having them understand what to do when someone takes something from them is a little more complicated.
You dont want to baby them each time and have your child scream and cry each time someone takes a shovel from them. If you respond to the fact that they're crying by putting something else in your hand they're going to continue to react the same way... Instead show them they have other optoins and let them get them on their own.
"Look, there's a blue shovel there". or "Look at the tractor you can play with instead!"
Eventually your child will respond naturally by looking for something new rather than the toy that was taken away. If a tantrum results in getting their toy back then they're going to naturally throw a tantrum every time to get it back... I dunno about you but I dont allow my children to obtain things that way even if it is something they are rightfully entitled to.
Let your child learn the skills on their own to an extent... you do your best to encourage them to act and react in a way that is acceptable for you.
PLEASE dont be the parent that thinks you're teaching your child social skills by ignoring or dismissing their not-so-good actions when they're playing with others.
Last week at McDonalds a child hit my 4 year old. It wasnt real hard so he wasnt hurt but it did upset him to an extent (confused him more than anything because he didnt understand why the kid hit him). Anyway... the kids mom walked over and told her son to say he was sorry, he said "no", then SHE apologized for her child, went back to sit down, and let her kid go play some more.
I would have personally told my child that hitting is NOT acceptable, made him say he was sorry, and I would have taken him home... end of story.
I think it's awful to see responses saying that parents will step in only if someone's hurting their child, but not if their child is doing something wrong to someone else.... /sigh
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